It’s what you do on the tough days that matters

It’s what you do on the tough days that matters.

Saturday I participated in my favorite event of the year. It is a two-person team triathlon that features a ¾ mile run into a 1.5 mile canoe into a 14-mile bike ride into a 5K run. Both partners need to stay together throughout the race.

The weather was accomodating considering the massive amounts of rain we’ve had in Philadelphia the last two months. Skies were clear, the course was cleaned up, temps were mild. My partner and I were well rested and ready to go. As were several of my other friends who were doing the race. We were all ready to post our best times, maybe get a good result and possibly be on the podium for our division.

But you never know what might happen. Did the weather change? No. Did someone get dumped out of the canoe? Maybe, but not that I saw.

No, my good friend and former race partner sprained his ankle a quarter mile into the ¾ mile run. Not sure what happened but with a large group running down a narrow path it doesn’t take much to turn a perfect day for a race into a dissappointing day where you and your partner can’t finish.

The thing is, the “can’t finish” part doesn’t come into my friend Mike’s vocabularly. At 63, he is as fit as the fittest 30-year-olds I know. I can’t keep up with him on a bike. I’d like to think I can out run him but secretly I never enter running events with him so he doesn’t have the opportunity to prove me wrong.

Mike and his partner finished the run to the canoe, proceded to paddle to the 8^th best time and then got on the bikes and worked their way up to 6^th overall. They averaged 17.4 mph. And one of them had a sprained ankle.

Then came the 5K. 3.1 miles of running. That just wasn’t going to work. So they walked it. It took them almost an hour. One team after another passing them. Teams they knew they would have beaten.

Mike hid the pain long enough to run the last few hundred yards to the finish line with his partner. They would have finished in the top 5 if it weren’t for the injury. They finished 50^th.

The point here is not “gut it out no matter how bad the pain.” I don’t believe in that. There is no need to risk permanent injury. Mike assessed the issue and decided to keep going. He knows his body. His partner stuck with him.

The point is anyone can have a great day when the conditions are perfect and there are no obstacles in your way. Sunny skies, well-paved roads, nice bikes, etc. The question is, how do you respond when something doesn’t go according to the perfect script? Do you pack it in and say “wait till next year”? Do you let it ruin your whole race? Or do you just work harder on the canoe and the bike knowing that the run is going to suffer?

The sweet justice is that they still qualified for 2^nd in the Masters Division and collected a medal. Goes to show you what happens when you finish.

The Cycle of Quitting

I ran across an article yesterday by Suzanne Evans, a business coach. I don't know Suzanne but her article resonated with me. Her "Cycle of Quitting" doesn't just apply to the business world. It also applies to people trying to lose weight, get lean and get healthy. I've gently re-written her article below to talk specifically about fitness but the crux of it is hers. You can see more of Suzanne's articles here.

There are two types of quitting:

1) Giving up

2) Walking away from something harmful or hurtful

I get a bird's eye view of - THE QUITTERS. I know some would say we should talk about the winners, but I must say I probably learn more from the quitters. The winners show up, suck up, cry, stomp, celebrate, and then rinse and repeat over and over. Every successful person who has lost weight or gotten fit that I have EVER worked with, mentored with, or been a colleague to has had the exact same formula.

The quitters are a bit more interesting. They are very creative and it is interesting where and how "quitting" shows up. Now remember the #1 reason exercisers fail is they stop- yep-stop. I have been watching the 'quitters cycle' for a long time and I know when it starts to creep up on people and kick in. I think it would be useful for people to see a lineage of how it starts and how they might stop themselves, as well as see the difference between something needing to come to an end and just quitting.

It usually appears like this...

Second guessing ~ fear ~ blame ~ projecting ~ overwhelm ~ blame ~ action ~ (the quitting) ~ relief ~ second guessing ~ fear and over again

Fascinating, right? I am using it as a paradigm for myself to catch me and where I am falling into the cycle - you can honestly use it for anything - the gym, your business, a relationship, etc. So, I don't want you to be a quitter...frankly, seeing people give up on their dreams daily can sometimes overwhelm me and blind me to the people actually living theirs, but I know you are out there. I know you are striving and working and living your gifts.

Here are a few tips to stay in the game, even when you would rather throw in the towel:

1) Have a clear vision of exactly what you want - relationship, money, freedom, environment, and spiritual. If you have a clear vision in writing and in your view, it is harder to let that vision go or the dream die.

2) Get real. One of my mentors says... "It is simple, but it is not easy." Success is hard work. No one ever won the Oscar, Gold Medal, Nobel Peace Prize, or lost 50 lbs by half ass showing up. And don't fool yourself....are you thinking you are working hard or are you spending a lot of time around thinking about succeeding and processing your next step.

3) Get good advice. The people around me won't let me quit. Surrounded yourself with a circle of influence. I have a tribe of tough and loving go-getters who want the same goals as you and will hold you accountable. When you want to stop, take a moment and remember that giving up on yourself is also giving up on them.

4) Care. I know you have gifts to share. Your life experience has value and people are meant to be transformed by your connection and your talent. Care enough to keep going. Care enough to share and keep going.

If you do what you love and you love people while you do it there is no reason to quit. Stopping is not an option. See you at the finish line!

Be well,

Paul

Paul Dziewisz
Active Personal Fitness
www.ActivePersonalFitness.com
267.626.7478

Landon Donovan, two anonymous tennis players, and the lessons of persistence

Persistence.

It is the single most powerful quality to have if you want to achieve a goal or dream. It was never displayed more overtly than yesterday.

Yesterday was an epic day in sports. Whether you follow soccer and tennis (most Americans have no more than a passing interest in either) or you don't, you have heard the news from South Africa and London.

In South Africa, the USA Soccer team, robbed of victory in the previous match by a referee's poor decision, faced a must-win situation to advance to the "knockout" round of the World Cup. This is a big deal. So big that hundreds of millions of people worldwide watch every game. The Super Bowl wishes it got this much attention.

They dominated play in Wednesday's match with Algeria but could not score. The team hit goal posts, missed easy scoring chances, and yes, had another goal disallowed by a referee's poor decision. As the end of the scoreless game neared it seemed as though the team could not overcome the bad calls and mistakes. It was not meant to be. As they entered extra time (the four minutes added on at the end of the game) they were in full attack mode, needing to score, desperate, 4 minutes from failure after 4 years of preparation.

Then magic happened. A key save by the U.S. goaltender, an aggressive pass to leader Landon Donovan, a flurry of passes and a bouncing ball in front of Algeria's net, and then Donovan ran on to the ball and calmly kicked it in. "It was like time stopped for a moment", Donovan said afterward.

The goal was an epic moment in USA sports. A memory for everyone who watched. A moment of national pride that sports can bring to a country. Denied a goal in a match they dominated until the 91st minute, the USA team worked even harder, pushed the pace, became more agressive and intense until they broke through with the goal. Memorable. Inspired.

A couple continents north of South Africa, two guys no one ever heard of played a lot of tennis yesterday. A LOT of tennis. 10 hours worth. And it's still not over. American John Isner and Frenchman Nicholas Mahut are still playing. The match began Tuesday, played all day Wednesday and continues today. The fifth set is tied 59 games to 59 games. For those of you who don't follow tennis, 59 total games is considered a very long match. They've played 118 games in the last set alone and they're still not done.

This is the longest match ever played. No one would have watched this match if it were not a record setter for length. Neither of these guys is famous. Neither of them will win the tournament. And yet, neither of them will quit. How easy would it be to just quit and let the other guy win. They have gained instant fame with appearances on the Today Show and other media outlets. Why not just stop now? But Isner and Mahut battle on. One will eventually win and one will lose but they have made a mark in tennis history.

My clients are regularly confronted with the fear of not reaching their goal. A few pounds of weight gain one week, a day where a 2 mile run feels like a marathon, and the feeling that someone else in boot camp is stronger, leaner, and fitter than they are.

At those moments of doubt (we're not going to advance to the knockout round or I'll never win this marathon match) is when you need to dig the deepest.

Landon Donovan and the US squad showed us that it sometimes takes effort in every moment to reach your dream. Isner and Mahut showed us that sometimes it takes a effort behind what you could have imagined to achieve your goal.

The next time you are faced with a workout where you just don't have it and don't think you will finish it. Take a moment and realize that all of the effort you put in will pay off big one day. And when it does, go out and set another goal.

Set Your Fitness Goals for 2010 -- A Call to Action

One of the keys to accomplishing anything in life is to set goals and hold yourself accountable to them. The goals could involve career, relationships, travel, education and, yes, fitness. Exercising more and losing weight are a close second and third to spending more time with family as the top New Years resolutions for Americans. Recent surveys have found that more than half of all Americans made resolutions involving exercise and weight loss.

Setting a specific goal and communicating it to family, friends, co-workers and peers will help hold you accountable to achieveing the goal. It will also inspire many of them to see you accomplish what you set out to do.

I've been telling my clients this for years. This time I am the one that needs to be held accountable. And I am asking you to join me. Below are my fitness goals for 2010. Several of the items are brand new territory for me (rowing competitions and marathons), they are agressive and the times will all be personal bests for me. But I will do them. If you hold me accountable.

And I want to hold you accountable to yours. Post your fitness goals in comments and update us throughout the year as you achieve them. Don't worry if you think they are not challenging goals. If they are a challenge for you then they are the right goals. Remember, I am a trainer, it's my job to be able to do this stuff.

Center City Sprints (Indoor Rowing) - Saturday, January 30 -- Drexel University (Philly)
Goal time: 7:00 for 2000m Previous Best: 6:47

The Main Line Slide (Indoor Rowing) - Saturday, February 6 -- Villanova University (Philly)
Goal time: 6:45 for 2000m Previous Best : 6:47

Tour of the Battenkill Bike Race Pro/Am - Saturday, April 10 -- Salem, NY
Goal time: Just finish respectably Previous Best: First attempt at this race
http://www.tourofthebattenkill.com/

Bucks County 5K Series - 7 race series March through June -- Bucks County, PA
Goal: Finish in top 10 in my age group (40-44) for the series as a whole. Best four out of seven races count toward overall standings. Previous Best: 17th

Broad Street Run (10 miles) -- Sunday, May 2nd -- Philadelphia, PA
Goal time: 1:11:00 Previous Best: 1:15:18
www.broadstreetrun.com

Univest Cyclosportif Pro/Am Bike Race (60 miles) - Saturday, Sept 10 -- Doylestown, PA
Goal time: TBD Previous Best: First Attempt

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Patriot Games (run/canoe/bike/run two-person team triathlon) - Saturday, Sept 10 -- Chalfont, PA
Goal: Top 5 overall team, Win either Master Division or Coed Division Championship

Philadelphia Distance Run (13.1 miles) --Sunday, Sept 19 -- Philadelphia, PA
Goal time: 1:35:00 Previous Best: 1:40:41

Philadelphia Marathon (26.2 miles) -- November 2010 -- Philadelphia, PA
Goal time: 3:45:00 (8:30/mile pace) Previous Best: This will be my first marathon

Buffalo-Niagara Turkey Trot 8K (4.97 miles) -- Thanksgiving Day -- Buffalo, NY
Goal time: 35 minutes Previous Best: 35:42

CrossFit Goals (This will only make sense to my CrossFit friends)
Complete an uninterupted "Fran"
21 full pullups
21 95# thrusters
15 full pullups
15 95# thrusters
9 full pullups
9 95# thrusters

CrossFit Total (Back Squat + Shoulder Press + Deadlift)
Goal: 750 lbs (Don't laugh Steve)

Filthy Fifty
Goal: 23 minutes (the pullups will kill me) Previous Best: roughly 35 minutes
50 Box jump
24 inch box
50 Jumping pull-ups
50 Kettlebell swings (35 lbs)
Walking Lunge
50 steps
50 Knees to elbows
50 Push press (45lbs)
50 Back extensions
50 Wall ball shots (20 lbs med ball)
50 Burpees
50 Double under jump ropes

"Cindy"
Goal: 18 rounds
As many rounds as possible in 20 minutes of:
5 Pullups
10 Pushups
15 Body Weight squats

Max rep pushups (full range of motion)
Goal: 65

That's it. I better get my butt to the gym.

Paul